Marriage Matters - Muslimah and Her Marriage

وَمِنْ ءايَـتِهِ أَنْ خَلَقَ لَكُم مِّنْ أَنفُسِكُمْ أَزْوَجاً
And among His Signs is this, that He created for you wives from among yourselves, that you may find repose in them, and He has put between you affection and mercy. Verily, in that are indeed signs for a people who reflect. (Ar-Rum 30:21)


وَجَعَلَ مِنْهَا زَوْجَهَا لِيَسْكُنَ إِلَيْهَا
It is He Who has created you from a single person (Adam), and (then) He has created from him his wife [Hawwa (Eve)], in order that he might enjoy the pleasure of living with her." (Al-A'raf 7:189)

Marriage is an important part of a Muslim(ah)'s life. Prophet Muhammad, sallallaahu 'alayhi wa sallam, has told us that it is half of our Deen. A successful marriage can be achieved by following the guidelines of our Deen and by the Will of Allaah, subhaanahu wa Taa'ala. If you are not yet married, pay attention to choosing a righteous spouse - you have a goal that you both try to reach, ie. striving for the sake of Allaah in order to enter Paradise, by the will of Allaah. And if you are married already, fulfill the rights of your husband. By doing this you are obeying Allaah and earning reward. Study this Deen together with your spouse and help each other in fulfilling your duties.

"If a woman prays her five daily prayers, fasts her month (of Ramadan), obeys her husband and guards her chastity, then it will be said to her: 'Enter Paradise by whichever of its gates you wish.'" [Reported by Ahmad and al-Tabarani; its narrators are thiqat. See Majma' al-Zawa'id, 4/306, Bab haqq al-zawj 'ala'l-mar'ah.]

Umm Salamah (May Allah be pleased with her) said: "The Messenger of Allah (SAW) said: 'Any woman who dies, and her husband is pleased with her, will enter Paradise.'" [Ibn Majah, 1/595, Kitab al-nikah, bab haqq al-zawj 'ala'l-mar'ah; al-Hakim, 4/173, Kitab al-birr wa'l-silah; he said its isnad is sahih.]

We have also gathered resources related to polygyny. Most resources online concentrate on explaining that it is lawful for a man to have up to four wives. We have included some of these resources but we have also tried to find resources that deal with the emotional side that women go through in polygyny. It can be a great jihaad for a sister yet the rewards will be great, insha'Allaah.

May Allaah give us Muslimaat the strenght and patience to be good and righteous wives, ameen.